I recently wrote about finding the film Still Alice a less than satisfactory portrait of a family dealing with Alzheimer’s. Well, I just watched a wonderfully honest documentary Looks Like Laury, Sounds Like Laury from the PBS series America Reframed. Laury, a wife, mother and former actress in NYC, is filmed by a friend from before her diagnosis–when friends weren’t sure if they were imagining something was wrong–through the growing realization that dementia has taken root.
Of course, Laury’s situation is not exactly like Ralph’s or mine, or yours or your loved one, because no two cases are the same. The very idiosyncrasy of Laury is what rings so true. And the reactions of Laury’s friends and family (including her little girl’s articulate best friend since kindergarten) show not only how difficult it can be for those of us who are intimately involved, but for those who are less intensely involved but who care.
Sometimes I find it hard to know what to share with friends and acquaintances. And frankly interactions can be awkward. But as I have been learning, the support and understanding of friends, even casual friends, can be crucial.
Thanks to https://annahnemouse.wordpress.com for writing about the documentary on her blog and giving the link http://video.pbs.org/video/2365437114/, which will evidently expire on April 10. I highly recommend watching while you can.
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I haven’t seen the film but I have Still Alice on my tbr pile. I have just finished a book called The Little Girl in the Radiator: Mum, Alzheimer’s and Me by Martin Slewin. Parts of it made me laugh out loud, though the lack of support from social services was criminal and the author seemed to know nothing about getting help.
I’ll check out Looks like Laury.