TRUST YOUR GUT

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In the last twenty-four hours I have heard from two friends each in crisis with a loved one and uncertain how to proceed. Both were going through that awful self-questioning I’ve put myself through to many times.

“Is something bad happening?”

“Am I overreacting? Is it just the dementia?”

“Maybe I should wait and see?”

“Should I call an ambulance?”

“Should I call the doctor or not?”

“Should I tell (whoever has just called to chat) what’s going on?”

“Is it my imagination?”

“What is going on?

The answer is simple and impossibly hard:

Go with your gut. Trust your instinct. Don’t worry if you’re wrong.

I have asked each of these questions, at least once all of them together.  I have worried that I was over- or under- reacting and then afterwards have berated myself for not acting sooner or for acting too quickly.

But in each case I ultimately trusted my instinct. Sometimes I trusted it more than other times and sometimes my instinct was more right than other times, but it was never entirely wrong.

 In hindsight, I can say definitely that there is no definite right or wrong.

This is the advice I want to imprint in my brain, and yours: When facing one of these horrible moments we all will face, TRUST my/your INSTINCT and DO NOT BLAME my/yourself whatever the outcome.

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